Growing up, I often heard whispers about masturbation. Naughty jokes, or cringes from teachers who had overheard students mention it, or odd looks between parents. It felt like this was something that society wanted us to feel ashamed of, yet nobody felt confident enough to discuss it openly. My friends and I would laugh uneasily, but we never actually talked openly about it.
As a young man I had heard all kinds of stories about crazy sex toys, outrageous techniques and abnormal fetishes, but I had never considered talking openly about masturbation. I felt like I had to be extra careful about this subject, to ensure I never appeared to be admitting to it directly. I was very stressed and anxious about the topic, often feeling overly concerned that somebody would mistakenly think I was admitting to it.
It took me a while to actually build up the confidence to talk about male masturbation. But when I finally did, I instantly found the conversations to be incredibly uplifting and vibrators refreshing. I realized that many of my friends felt the same way I did – embarrassed and secretive about the topic – and we started discussing it with a much more open approach.
As I talked more about the topic of secret male masturbation I began to experience a lot of liberation along with the curious exploration of new ideas and techniques. I felt comfortable enough to explore further and find out more. I learned that there is nothing remotely wrong or immoral about masturbation, and was reminded that it is a perfectly normal and natural activity – something that most of us engage in, yet something that we don’t often talk about or share stories about.
I began to discover different tools and techniques to explore, with varying outcomes – some good, some not-so-good. In any case, I found the whole experience to be incredibly pleasurable. I realized that the best thing about masturbation was that it was entirely up to me to set the terms and boundaries around it – no judgement, no shame.
The more I talked to others, the more I was able to compare notes with them. Eventually I became more comfortable with discussing it, and even encouraged others to do the same. It turns out that sharing our experiences, triumphs and failures, was beneficial to most of us, as it opened up a whole new world of understanding and exploration of secret male masturbation.
Of course, the conversation is still one that has to be had carefully! But I’m thankful to have finally found someone who I can share this with without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. I’m sure you’ll agree that it is important to be open and honest about these topics, regardless of how uncomfortable it may feel initially.